So far

So far I've mostly played by the rules. I didn't email anyone before 24 hours were up. The one text I received (because guys no longer have the balls to call a girl), I waited a day to respond. I know what you are thinking - "but it's a text!". Yeah, but it didn't say much. Just something about having a good day. No questions. No reason to really respond immediately. Plus, I was at the gym, and then I had to go home to sit on the couch and watch tv.

I received an email from one of the guys last night asking me if I was available this weekend. According to the rules - no, I am not available. And I might have plans tomorrow night anyway. But what about Sunday? The Rules don't say anything about Sunday. Too bad a consultation with The Rules chics is $300! Ridiculous. Not that I was going to consult them - I just went to the website (which is poorly done by the way) and saw the info there. Who pays that?? I just want someone to tell me what the rule is for texting and for dates Sunday through Friday. That certainly won't take the 30 minutes that the $300 pays for! Seriously - I can't believe these chics can charge that much. I wonder how much they make from individual consultations. I bet they make more if they spiffed up their website.

Oh yeah - tonight I am going to a social event. I don't really want to, but I'm supposed to go even though I don't want to. It's a rule. Luckily, I hear the meeting is only 45 minutes. Then they go somewhere for dinner (and hopefully drinks) afterward. It is a social club that has different outdoor events (no it is NOT choa - no way). They ski a lot during the winter a in NC, so I'm hoping that maybe I'll turn into a ski bunny.

And I'll end this post right there.....

Have you met me???

Apparently not.

Now, this is not a rule, but a recommendation at the back of The Rules book. They want me to only have one drink on a date - then entire time. Huh? Seriously - What's the point?

Once a Week

Here's one that I agree with, however, at this point, I do not practice:

Attend a singles or social event at least once a week. Go even if you don't want to. And go alone if you have to.

First of all, there are no "singles dances" anymore. And if there is one, you wouldn't find me at one. Losers. (I apologize if I've offended anyone.) But there are many social groups that meet for happy hours and dinners all the time. I hate going to these things alone. It makes me very uncomfortable. But rules are rules, so I'll try it out. I'll be the one at the bar drinking a Cabernet on my own.

Take up a hobby? I have extracurricular activities that I enjoy - they just aren't activities where you would normally meet men. I've been thinking of volunteering, but can't find anything that I want to do. I'm planning to go to some of these social group meetups, but I'm concerned that it will be all older, more mature people. And I just won't fit in. But I must try. If I can't stand being there, I can always leave.

Any ideas of interesting activities?

Rule #1 for Online Dating

Always wait 24 hours to respond to his email. Ok, I can see this one. But what about texts? Wait a couple of hours? Respond in the evening before retiring to bed?

Rule #2: Never contact men first.
I don't like this rule as it seems that not all profiles are shown to everyone. This is a rule I will probably break.

I have very little patience or self control. This should be one interesting experiment.

Apparently

I've been doing everything wrong. I should think about what I would normally do when dating....and then do the complete opposite....

Starting Over

I'm not in a relationship yet. Hell, I still can't even get past the fifth date. It's been over a year since I started with match.com (for the millionth time), and I'm still looking.

Nothing that I've done thus far in my life has worked, so I've decided to use a new set of rules. Many of you know them as simply "The Rules". Now, I have always thought they were stupid and ridiculous, but whatever it is I'm doing is working. Right? So why not give them a shot. You never know.

I didn't realize that this book controls your every move, including what you are allowed to say, think, wear, hold your head, etc, etc.

Apparently, men love a challenge. Perhaps this is why I can't catch a man. I wear my heart on my sleeve when I should make them think I'm not interested?

Some rules I've read so far:
Don't meet him half way or go dutch on a date

• Don't open up too fast
• Don't call him and rarely return his calls
• Don't expect a man to change or try to change him - Well, this one, I knew.
• Always end the date first
• Don't stare at men or talk to much (I might have a problem with this one.)
• Don't accept a Saturday night date after Wednesday

So, who will be my first victim?

Oh yeah -

One more that I forgot about - Matt. I think he was after I stopped writing. Nice guy. Made my face hurt from laughing so much....but I just wasn't feeling attracted to him. Maybe I should contact him again. He'd make a great friend.

...So..Um...

Yeah. I supposed I took a little break there. Dating is HARD!! And wish I didn't have to do it anymore...but let's face it, if I don't want to become the old, crazy, cat-lady, I have to.

Since I last wrote, I've dated several men...Sean, Jay, Brian, gosh, I can't remember that one's name (oops), oh yeah - Jeff, Kevin, Scott....and, um, Eric again. I think that covers it, but probably not. Only three of them did I go out with more than once.

To make a long story short, I successfully completed my six month stint on match.com without finding a relationship (Surprise!!), so now I get six months for free. Let's hope these second six months bode better for this blog (and me as well).

Gotta run for now! Lots of email to write! I'll keep you posted on my progress.

Oh yeah - I am supposed to have a date with Ken this Thursday. We have been chatting on and off for about a year now. You would think that we would have met by now. Any suggestions on what we should do??